This is kinda of an addendum to the previous blog... but its weighing on my mind so here we go...
People, protect your children. I know this isn't always convenient for you, but PLEASE keep in mind that children are impressionable, tender little hearts and minds, dependent on YOU to set an example and teach them about life, and yes, to protect them from the bad stuff. Sometimes protecting them means putting off what you want to do til later, but its so worth it. You should always put the welfare of your children before anything or anyone.
So, you have to ask yourself every day.. What is my behaviour teaching my child today? What do my decisions teach my child about life, about how to live life, about how to make good, solid decisions, about clean living, about how to treat others, about Godly living, safe living, good nutrition, the proper way to conduct ones self in public and in private?? Because the thing to realize is that from the moment that child was conceived, life ceased to be about YOU. You became responsible for molding the life of another human being. That is an AWESOME responsibility. So, are the things you do and the decisions you make things you want your child to do and decisions you are comfortable with your child making??
If you are partying and drinking, hanging out in bars, sleeping around with different guys or girls... being slovenly in your personal life or appearance, hanging out with rough people that you wouldn't trust to take care of your child... Are these things you would be comfortable knowing your beautiful, precious child will be doing in a few years? Because if you are doing it now, he or she will be doing it soon. They learn what you live.
You need to know this: GOD entrusted your children to you. He gave you a precious gift, loaned it to you really, to take care of on this Earth, to teach and watch over, to educate and to love. And if you are neglecting that responsibility, you are failing a responsibility that God trusted you with, and you are failing your child. You are failing to give your child the love and protection and education that they need to be able to go out into this crazy world and be successful. And, in retrospect, you are failing yourself... because I guarantee you that when you are older, and the kids are older and things are going all wrong, they will blame you... and what will your defense be? "I did the best that I could"?? A lie that will just add insult to injury. And the true sadness here is that your kids will most likely pass the same 'upbringing' on to their kids... and the cycle will continue, until somewhere down the line, some kid decides, Hey! I don't have to live this way! I have the power to change myself!
Why not let that change start with YOU? Break the mold! Live better! Raise your kids better! Love them better! They are so tender hearted, so impressionable... and they need parents who can feed their souls, protect their little hearts, protect them emotionally as well as physically, educate them in proper things. They need parents who will stand up for them, be their hero's, yet discipline them when necessary, set those boundaries for what is acceptable and not... be the parent, not the buddy....... It's a daunting challenge in todays society, more so than ever before, but if you are a parent, regardless of circumstances, it's a challenge you have already taken up. Its up to you how well you meet it.
Love y'all.
Susan
Friday, September 6, 2013
Children as Chattel / Being Nice in an Unkind World
You know, I wish there were a way to make everyone happy in every situation... I wish there were a way to keep that one bad potato from spoiling the whole bunch.. I wish there were a way to banish hatefulness and spite, or at least put a lid on it, so that people could get along... I wish there were a way to make people see the truth, the REAL TRUTH of a situation instead of what is convenient (self serving) for them to believe. I wish people weren't so prideful and didn't have such a hard time admitting when they are or were wrong, and how they contributed to a situation, how they could have helped instead of hindered.. and I wish people would especially keep this in mind when children are involved. I wish there were some sort of internal warning light that went off when people were being self-serving, instead of doing the right thing, you know, just to tip them off and give them a chance to do act right before they did damage to others.
I wish that divorcing people and people with children who are suffering through the pangs of a dying relationship wouldn't view their children as pawns and ransom and potential income. They need to put the childs welfare ahead of their own needs and wants, ahead of their own rage and their own need to lash out and hurt the former mate... I know this feeling can be strong, real, and overwhelming.... but its not in the childrens best interest. They love and need both parents, they need to know that both parents love and need them. And they need to know that the custodial parent loves them enough to care about their needs. AND this is ALL they need to know. They don't need to know how much disdain one parent has for the other, or the colorful names you have come up with for each other. I have some experience with this particular topic, and I can tell you that things would have gone much smoother for the adults as well as the children if ALL the adults involved could have seen beyond themselves and done what was right for the child or children, at the time.
Aside from divorce situations, I wish that people in general would just be kinder, more loving, more thoughtful of one another. It's true what they say... everyone is going through something, everyone is fighting some sort of battle... most of us try to put on a happy face, some of us don't . Some people are just grumpy and hateful. It doesn't mean they can't use a kind word and some loving behaviour shown to them. Maybe they need it more than most! It is true that some people are harder to love than others, but we should still love them, and probably need to love them double, whether they seem to appreciate it or not!
We are given that Duty by God Himself... to LOVE. Love our Brethren. Love our neighbors. Love the sinner. Love the widows. Love the old. Love the orphans. Love the little ones. Love the unlovable. Love our enemies. Love everyone. What a wonderful testament to our FAITH, and the GRACE we've been blessed with to be able to put this commandment into action. There are times when this is not so easy to do... when we are hurt, when we are angry, or outraged... or worse, when someone has hurt someone we love... It is sometimes very hard to love and be helpful to someone who seems to give you nothing but grief in return, but we are commanded to, and your LOVE for them may be the only scripture they get. YOU may be their LIVING SCRIPTURE! How awesome is that! So in spite of the difficulty of the task at hand, I implore you not to give up on the seemingly unlovable... they need it more than anyone. I would like to add as a side note, that no one expects you to put yourself in any real physical danger in order to do this, so certainly, don't risk your life or endanger anyone else in a physical way in order to prove this point.
I hope you will all forgive me for the rambling nature of this particular blog. I haven't written in while (TONS of stuff going on here on the home front), so I'll be trying to catch up in the next couple of weeks and they are apt to be a bit rambling cause I seem to have a lot to say all of a sudden!
Love to all and God Bless!
Susan
I wish that divorcing people and people with children who are suffering through the pangs of a dying relationship wouldn't view their children as pawns and ransom and potential income. They need to put the childs welfare ahead of their own needs and wants, ahead of their own rage and their own need to lash out and hurt the former mate... I know this feeling can be strong, real, and overwhelming.... but its not in the childrens best interest. They love and need both parents, they need to know that both parents love and need them. And they need to know that the custodial parent loves them enough to care about their needs. AND this is ALL they need to know. They don't need to know how much disdain one parent has for the other, or the colorful names you have come up with for each other. I have some experience with this particular topic, and I can tell you that things would have gone much smoother for the adults as well as the children if ALL the adults involved could have seen beyond themselves and done what was right for the child or children, at the time.
Aside from divorce situations, I wish that people in general would just be kinder, more loving, more thoughtful of one another. It's true what they say... everyone is going through something, everyone is fighting some sort of battle... most of us try to put on a happy face, some of us don't . Some people are just grumpy and hateful. It doesn't mean they can't use a kind word and some loving behaviour shown to them. Maybe they need it more than most! It is true that some people are harder to love than others, but we should still love them, and probably need to love them double, whether they seem to appreciate it or not!
We are given that Duty by God Himself... to LOVE. Love our Brethren. Love our neighbors. Love the sinner. Love the widows. Love the old. Love the orphans. Love the little ones. Love the unlovable. Love our enemies. Love everyone. What a wonderful testament to our FAITH, and the GRACE we've been blessed with to be able to put this commandment into action. There are times when this is not so easy to do... when we are hurt, when we are angry, or outraged... or worse, when someone has hurt someone we love... It is sometimes very hard to love and be helpful to someone who seems to give you nothing but grief in return, but we are commanded to, and your LOVE for them may be the only scripture they get. YOU may be their LIVING SCRIPTURE! How awesome is that! So in spite of the difficulty of the task at hand, I implore you not to give up on the seemingly unlovable... they need it more than anyone. I would like to add as a side note, that no one expects you to put yourself in any real physical danger in order to do this, so certainly, don't risk your life or endanger anyone else in a physical way in order to prove this point.
I hope you will all forgive me for the rambling nature of this particular blog. I haven't written in while (TONS of stuff going on here on the home front), so I'll be trying to catch up in the next couple of weeks and they are apt to be a bit rambling cause I seem to have a lot to say all of a sudden!
Love to all and God Bless!
Susan
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