Our Bitterness Takes Root

OUR BITTERNESS TAKES ROOT IN OUR SOUL AND BEARS FRUIT

Hebrews 12:15 See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to because trouble and defile many.”

God’s grace and our bitterness cannot coexist in the same heart. Either God’s grace will push out your bitterness, or your bitterness will push out God’s grace.

If the truth be told, we don’t hold a grudge – a grudge holds us. The poison in our soul doesn’t hurt the person we are holding resentment against but it kills us. It’s a huge, heavy burden we carry with us everywhere we go.

And hard or bitter feelings toward others ends up “causing trouble” and “defiling many, and it spreads out to other people; people who don’t deserve it. It will poison your relationships, friendships, marriages, children, and associates.

There is an answer in God’s Word. There is a way to rescue your heart and emotions. It is called forgiveness.

Ephesians tells us to “get rid of all bitterness…be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you”.

We have been forgiven, now we become the forgiver. We can store resentment and bitterness and let it become poison in our soul; a poison that will cripple or destroy us. Jesus Christ’s love and the power of forgiveness, is our antidote. Do yourself a favor, and SET YOURSELF FREE, so you can be happy. Have the peace and joy of the Lord Jesus in your life. Forgive. FORGIVE!!

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Protecting Your Children, even when its inconvenient....

This is kinda of an addendum to the previous blog... but its weighing on my mind so here we go...

People, protect your children. I know this isn't always convenient for you, but PLEASE keep in mind that children are impressionable, tender little hearts and minds, dependent on YOU to set an example and teach them about life, and yes, to protect them from the bad stuff. Sometimes protecting them means putting off what you want to do til later, but its so worth it. You should always put the welfare of your children before anything or anyone.

So, you have to ask yourself every day.. What is my behaviour teaching my child today? What do my decisions teach my child about life, about how to live life, about how to make good, solid decisions, about clean living, about how to treat others, about Godly living, safe living, good nutrition, the proper way to conduct ones self in public and in private??  Because the thing to realize is that from the moment that child was conceived, life ceased to be about YOU. You became responsible for molding the life of another human being. That is an AWESOME responsibility. So, are the things you do and the decisions you make things you want your child to do and decisions you are comfortable with your child making??

If you are partying and drinking, hanging out in bars, sleeping around with different guys or girls... being slovenly in your personal life or appearance, hanging out with rough people that you wouldn't trust to take care of your child... Are these things you would be comfortable knowing your beautiful, precious child will be doing in a few years? Because if you are doing it now, he or she will be doing it soon. They learn what you live.

You need to know this: GOD entrusted your children to you. He gave you a precious gift, loaned it to you really, to take care of on this Earth, to teach and watch over, to educate and to love. And if you are neglecting that responsibility, you are failing a responsibility that God trusted you with, and you are failing your child. You are failing to give your child the love and protection and education that they need to be able to go out into this crazy world and be successful. And, in retrospect, you are failing yourself... because I guarantee you that when you are older, and the kids are older and things are going all wrong, they will blame you... and what will your defense be? "I did the best that I could"?? A lie that will just add insult to injury. And the true sadness here is that your kids will most likely pass the same 'upbringing' on to their kids... and the cycle will continue, until somewhere down the line, some kid decides, Hey! I don't have to live this way! I have the power to change myself!

Why not let that change start with YOU? Break the mold! Live better! Raise your kids better! Love them better! They are so tender hearted, so impressionable... and they need parents who can feed their souls, protect their little hearts, protect them emotionally as well as physically, educate them in proper things. They need parents who will stand up for them, be their hero's, yet discipline them when necessary, set those boundaries for what is acceptable and not... be the parent, not the buddy....... It's a daunting challenge in todays society, more so than ever before, but if you are a parent, regardless of circumstances, it's a challenge you have already taken up. Its up to you how well you meet it.

Love y'all.

Susan

Children as Chattel / Being Nice in an Unkind World

You know, I wish there were a way to make everyone happy in every situation... I wish there were a way to keep that one bad potato from spoiling the whole bunch.. I wish there were a way to banish hatefulness and spite, or at least put a lid on it, so that people could get along... I wish there were a way to make people see the truth, the REAL TRUTH of a situation instead of what is convenient (self serving) for them to believe. I wish people weren't so prideful and didn't have such a hard time admitting when they are or were wrong, and how they contributed to a situation, how they could have helped instead of hindered.. and I wish people would especially keep this in mind when children are involved. I wish there were some sort of internal warning light that went off when people were being self-serving, instead of doing the right thing, you know, just to tip them off and give them a chance to do act right before they did damage to others.

I wish that divorcing people and people with children who are suffering through the pangs of a dying relationship wouldn't view their children as pawns and ransom and potential income.  They need to put the childs welfare ahead of their own needs and wants, ahead of their own rage and their own need to lash out and hurt the former mate... I know this feeling can be strong, real, and overwhelming.... but its not in the childrens best interest. They love and need both parents, they need to know that both parents love and need them. And they need to know that the custodial parent loves them enough to care about their needs.  AND this is ALL they need to know. They don't need to know how much disdain one parent has for the other, or the colorful names you have come up with for each other. I have some experience with this particular topic, and I can tell you that things would have gone much smoother for the adults as well as the children if ALL the adults involved could have seen beyond themselves and done what was right for the child or children, at the time.

Aside from divorce situations, I wish that people in general would just be kinder, more loving, more thoughtful of one another. It's true what they say... everyone is going through something, everyone is fighting some sort of battle... most of us try to put on a happy face, some of us don't . Some people are just grumpy and hateful. It doesn't mean they can't use a kind word and some loving behaviour shown to them. Maybe they need it more than most! It is true that some people are harder to love than others, but we should still love them, and probably need to love them double, whether they seem to appreciate it or not!

We are given that Duty by God Himself... to LOVE. Love our Brethren. Love our neighbors. Love the sinner. Love the widows. Love the old. Love the orphans. Love the little ones. Love the unlovable. Love our enemies. Love everyone. What a wonderful testament to our FAITH, and the GRACE we've been blessed with to be able to put this commandment into action. There are times when this is not so easy to do... when we are hurt, when we are angry, or outraged... or worse, when someone has hurt someone we love... It is sometimes very hard to love and be helpful to someone who seems to give you nothing but grief in return, but we are commanded to, and your LOVE for them may be the only scripture they get. YOU may be their LIVING SCRIPTURE! How awesome is that! So in spite of the difficulty of the task at hand, I implore you not to give up on the seemingly unlovable... they need it more than anyone. I would like to add as a side note, that no one expects you to put yourself in any real physical danger in order to do this, so certainly, don't risk your life or endanger anyone else in a physical way in order to prove this point.

I hope you will all forgive me for the rambling nature of this particular blog. I haven't written in while (TONS of stuff going on here on the home front), so I'll be trying to catch up in the next couple of weeks and they are apt to be a bit rambling cause I seem to have a lot to say all of a sudden!

Love to all and God Bless!

Susan

Venting Your Frustrations is all about TIming!

We all have those days... you know, when we are fed up, wrung out, at the end of our rope and had just about all we can take for one day... and then somebody, some unsuspecting person pops right up and decides that now, RIGHT NOW, is the very best time, to tell you exactly how they feel about what you did concerning blah blah blah. Really? That has to be today?  They have no idea what they are in for.

Or, in the case of my sister Ann, who has recently been diagnosed with Stage 4 Metastasized Cancer, I don't think there is a good time to VENT on her... not for a while probably, if ever. My advice is to not try it. For your own good.

Recently, Ann posted something on FaceBook about how grateful she is that when friends and family are not available to talk to, God always is. She is comforted by this knowledge, because being a Christian, and knowing that God is always there to listen, to put His arms around you, means you are never truly alone. What she wrote was touching and sweet, and true. We all loved it, except for this one woman.... I'll call her Tammy.

I didn't see her response, nor my sister's response to her response...I'll call the woman Tammy since I don't know her real name. Tammy had the good sense to remove it before I had the chance. But the gist of it was this: she thought that right then was a great opportunity to point out when my sister had NOT been there for HER... and all the things she had failed to do for her, etc etc. Which was totally selfish and UNTRUE. Ann stood by Tammy when her mother passed away. And took vacation time to go on a quite unpleasant road trip with this woman to help her clean out her deceased mothers house... for which she received nothing but criticism. Ann stood by Tammy when she herself had cancer, when Tammy's husband had cancer, when Tammy was suffering with chemo.... anyway you get my drift. Ann was a friend to this unpleasant woman, because it was the Christian thing to do, not because it was the easy thing to do. And then this woman is going to step out ON FB, and criticize her! Needless to say, my Christian attitude slipped just a tidge and my human nature took over. Which is why it was a good thing I didn't find out who the woman really was!

SO... what I said was this... IF anyone thinks it is wise and appropriate to criticize Ann for anything...it is suggested that you come to me first. Let us talk it over and then we will see if you still think it is important enough to approach her with it or if you and Jesus just need to have a little sit-down and be done with it.

In other words.... for people who are a little slow on the uptake... NOW is not a good time to be causing Ann grief. Not NOW, not EVER. She has a bit much on her plate and she doesn't need to be stressed by any petty arguments or grievances that anyone wants to share with her. Learn to let it go instead and offer her some support. To my knowledge, she never NEVER was mean or hateful to anyone, but was helpful to everyone, and if she couldn't help, she was at the very least, POLITE. I expect no less from all her friends, former co-workers, and acquaintances now. And if your urge to tell her off is so great you can't contain yourself, contact me, you can tell me off instead.

That is all.

Dropping the ball...

Dear Readers...

I know I have been slacking on my blogging the past few weeks. I do hope you will forgive me. I have been quite taken aback by some developments/news in my family and have not been functioning on a 'normal' level.

My sister called me a few weeks ago with the news that she had been diagnosed with a Stage 4 Metastasized cancer. It was sudden, shocking news. I have been crying ever since. We've  had a wonderful, love filled, laughter filled, children running wild and in abundance family reunion which was absolutely a God sent blessing and a tear soaked I-can't-breathe hug fest all rolled into one. My dear mother had 4 of her 5 daughters (unfortunately one sister and my brother were unable to attend). There were grandchildren and great grands running everywhere.. it was quite the sight!! And of course, being good Southerners, there was an embarrassing abundance of delicious Southern food, hardly any of it qualifying for 'healthy' eating, but more of the 'comfort' food variety. All of it was wonderful!!

And then, after four wonderful days of hugging, crying, laughing, and walking down memory lane.. it was time to pack up and head home... my sister and her family back to Texas. Myself and my crew back to South Alabama... More heartbreak to have to part ways.

I hope all the cousins will remember their time together. I hope they will make an effort to get together again soon. But mostly I pray that God will have His mighty hand on my sister... that His healing, His comfort, His wisdom and guidance, and His Spirit will cover her, to keep her from anxiety, to heal her if it be His will, to comfort her when she is scared or uncertain, to cradle her when she doesn't feel well, to guide her when decisions need to be made and to reassure her in times of doubt that she is LOVED, that she is HIS TREASURE as well as ours, and that when I cannot be there with her, the Spirit of the Lord will comfort her.

I would ask that all who read this lift her up in prayer, and the family as well, so that we can be strong for her. Let our faith not waiver. But let us STAND FIRM and know that GOD IS IN CONTROL and GOD IS GOOD, ALL THE TIME, even when we don't understand.

What does it mean to be SAVED? And how do you get there??

I'm glad you asked! I used to question that very thing!! Although I had always had a  spiritual belief in God, it was all very vague... and when people would ask me about my religion, I would give that all too familiar answer you've probably heard a million times, "Well, I'm not really in 'church' but I've always been very 'spiritual'." What does that even mean??!

Many of you may have been raised in church, but I wasn't. My grandmother went to  church, but I never remember going with her. I know my mother took us when I was small, but I have no memory of it. I know my older sibling was baptised when I was quite small, but I wasn't. There were a smattering of church outings throughout my childhood, but nothing consistent and yet I prayed. I knew enough to pray.

As a young adult and mother, I tried several times to get established in a church, but I failed. Seems like each one I tried was more concerned with who was attending regularly and who wore what. I was never comfortable. I didn't fit in. I didn't have the social connections, the new car, the fine house or the finances to feel accepted into "organized" religion.

It wasn't until about 12 years ago that I got serious about church and educating myself about salvation. So, getting back to our topic... what does it mean to be SAVED?

It is so simple! And yet, that first step is a doozy!!

Step one is to simply acknowledged that Christ is LORD! You have to have a full belief in God, and that Jesus is His son, and His SON, Jesus died on the Cross for YOU, for all of us, and rose again on the 3rd day. You don't have to have a complete understanding of the whys and wherefores... Wednesday night Bible Studies are designed to teach us all that! You don't have to be living a perfect life, God will correct you and clean you up AFTER you commit to HIM! You can come to Him just as you are!
You just need to BELIEVE in your heart that JESUS loves you, HE DIED FOR YOU and make the decision to REPENT your sins (ask forgiveness) and live for HIM!
And that, friends, is how you start your journey of submission to God and salvation. I promise you will never regret it. A relationship with God is the single most important decision you can ever make for yourself, for your family and for every aspect of your life... Peace is available to all of us through Christ Jesus.

Be a Bible...

Everyday, as we go about our routines, doing our jobs, taking care of our families, buying groceries, paying bills, running errands, taking the kids to ball practice or whatever it is our day holds...we are setting an example to everyone who sees us go about our day. This could be our neighbors, friends, check out clerk, a child we don't know, a child of our own, or someone behind us in the checkout line.

Question is... what kind of example are you setting? As a Christian, you should be setting a Christ like example, displaying humility and love, a willingness to help, a cheerful countenance... Just keep this in mind... For some people, YOU may be the only BIBLE THEY READ. That is an awesome responsibility and an awesome opportunity to spread the LOVE of CHRIST and HIS WORD without even opening your mouth! Make sure the pages of your life reflect the TRUTH of Gods WORD...  it's so easy to do! Be generous in your praise of others, be thankful to those who help and assist you, have joy in your heart as one of God's elect and let that joy shine for others to see, be humble, put others needs before your own, help and assist others whenever you can... and do it gladly! Show others that being a Christian is a happy, freeing, joyous place to be... and your example might win them over to the idea to!

I think its about forgiveness....

Ephesians 4:23  (ESV) and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds

Like anything else, the first step to recovery, is admitting you have a problem! So, how do you know you have things you need to let go of? Some of it is easy... you know if you are angry with someone, if you hold a grudge, if you harbor hatred in your heart or even if you are just perpetually irritated by some family member. To me, the biggest problem was deep seated anger, which I guess amounted to a grudge... but for many years I felt it was justified, considering what had been done to me by that person.

As Christians, we change when we are saved and Baptised. We put on our “new man”. This means we are a NEW person in Christ. And we have to start living it. Our joy in the Lord should shine in our lives, and be evident in our every action and word!

It is so important to deal with your past issues... and lets face it, we all have past issues. Jesus died on the Cross to forgive our sins and give us new life, and a life of abundance. We cannot accept or obtain that if we are still living in or holding onto our past life, our past problems and the person we used to be before we were saved and washed clean by the blood of the lamb!! God has forgiven you! The hard part is forgiving yourself and forgiving the people in your life who have hurt you and wronged you. It is hard, but essential.

After being saved, the Lord will allow you some time to address and work through these things, to make amends and come to peace with the things that dwell in your heart. HE will guide you as you pray for guidance, and be a healing salve to the wounds of the past, BUT you have to do your part. You have to be willing to let go of the past, you have to be willing to take an honest look at why you were holding on to certain things from the past, and even certain people and you even have to be willing to examine relationships and evaluate how they are going to fit into your new life as a Christian.

If your past involved addictions, I urge you to pray hard for guidance, to reach out to people who can help you and to break ties with people who are also involved in such activities. I think it’s imperative for your well-being to be away from that influence until you a strong enough in your faith to decide if you can be around them without being tempted.

When you are ready, your testimony could lead them to Christ, but if you attempt it before you are strong enough, you could be opening yourself up to temptation you are not equipped to resist. I don’t pretend to be an expert on this kind of dependency, so please do seek out those who know more about the subject than I do.

For this first, brief installment on overcoming the past, let me leave you with this... pray and pray hard... for help in recognizing things you need to address, things you need to get rid of, things you need to forgive, and forget, and what the lessons are you need to learn from these trials. Ask the Holy Spirit to fill you and guide you on this journey.  This goes for forgive and forget scenarios as well as situations where you need to stop a bad habit... like smoking, over eating, an addiction to cookies, etc. Turn over to the Lord. If you do it with all sincerity, He will help you.

Phil 3:13-14  Forgetting those things that are behind.....

One thing that I do know about and that gives many new Christians so much trouble is the issue of forgiveness. When you’ve been hurt and damaged by friends and family members, it may seem impossible to forgive them. You can. First you have to understand what it means to forgive. Forgiveness does not mean that whatever they did to hurt you is okay, or that you are dismissing the wrong that was done. Forgiveness means that you are no longer going to harbor hatred and animosity towards that person, you are letting go of those negative feelings. You are not freeing them from their responsibility, you are freeing yourself from the negative feelings that are dragging YOU down and affecting your life, your thinking and your SPIRIT in a very negative way. The HOLY SPIRIT cannot bless you and dwell in you to the fullest when you have huge black spots of unforgiveness and bitterness on your heart. Once you let it go, you will see and feel the benefit of it, and it gets easier and easier because you don’t want that feeling in you!! You don’t want that weight on your spirit!

It is a process... sometimes forgiving someone can take some time.  Seek God’s comfort through prayer to expedite this process.  Don’t take too much time. And I caution you about over thinking it or over talking it. Repeatedly talking about a bad experience, past what it takes to work through it initially, is only the devils workshop and just keeps the experience alive, therefore keeping the bad feelings alive. This is not what you want. In order to forgive, you want to put the issue down, not repeatedly re-live it. With the Lord’s help, you can forgive those who’ve harmed and offended you.  And then you will have peace.

You might ask, “Why should I forgive them? Why should I let them off the hook? They did the wrong, not me!!” The reason is simple. The people who wronged you, the people who have you bound up and busy hating them, those people have most likely moved on. They aren’t “busy” wondering if you are hurting, or if you are mad or if they did you any damage! If they care to think on it, they know what they did. But they have moved on. It’s only YOU who are wasting your TIME, and YOUR ENERGY and YOUR EMOTIONS feeding a grief or an anger that is only eating at YOU! It doesn’t do them any harm at all. In the end, they will have to answer for their actions, and you for yours. The Bible tells us that we should forgive.

John 20:13  If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you withhold forgiveness from any, it is withheld.

John 10:10  The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

Phil 3:13-14  Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,

Ephesians 4:23  (ESV) and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds

1 Corinthians 15:53 (ESV) For this perishable body must put on the imperishable, and this mortal body must put on immortality.

Romans 8:11 (ESV)

11 If the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, he who raised Christ Jesus[a] from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who dwells in you.

Romans 3:24-25 (ESV)  and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, 25 whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith. This was to show God's righteousness, because in his divine forbearance he had passed over former sins.

If it stops you....

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